A SOCIAL etiquette expert has taken to social media to explain the 10 things people are doing wrong on social media.
The expert claims that these mistakes could cost you opportunities and sabotage your future.
Anna Bey is a popular social etiquette expert who has candidly revealed mistakes that she has made in the past.
She feel that have errors have hampered her and she has made the video to stop others from making the same mistakes she made.
She listed a range of no-no’s which included posting passive aggressive or Inspirational quotes, oversharing on a bad day and pictures of yourself drinking.
These she explained could tarnish your reputation and the posts will always remain on your online profile.
Anna also noted that there is a difference between you posting pictures that are provocative or sexy pictures or videos.
She stated you should never post ‘thirst trap’ Images, these are racy posted with the intent to entice viewers.
Anna then gave a breakdown of the 10 things to avoid to keep your social media pages looking classy.
1: Provocative Pictures
As stated earlier there is a huge difference between a sexy photo and a provocative image.
In the video she said: “We have the obvious sexy pictures, and then we have the silent, non obvious sexy pictures.”
To illustrate her reasoning, she showed a picture of women playing basketball and said this was a typical, not obvious, sexy picture.
Adding: “The girls are playing ball but, we all know what we’re looking at.”
Anna then went to demonstrate what a “thirst trap” picture was.
Here she displayed a gallery of women posing in their underwear on beds.
She then displayed a gallery of women posing in their underwear on beds as an example of ‘obvious, sexy, and provocative pictures”.
Here she explained that the image was ‘obvious, sexy and of a provocative nature.”
Anna pointed out that once posted the picture will stay on the Internet forever so it was extremely important not to be overly provocative in images.
2: Don’t overshare your love life or partner online
The etiquette expert said that oversharing your personal is definite no.
She explained that couples do not need to be active on social media.
Adding that there really is no need to be all the time posting intimate pictures or videos of the the relationship.”
She added: “you should not be oversharing about your personal relationships online.”
Anna said that it is ok to occasionally post a “husband appreciation post.”
She agreed that date night on Valentine’s day is a refined and balanced way to show your loved one that you care.
However she warned that posting PDA pictures such as kissing, touching intimate body parts is a major no when it comes to social media etiquette.
Anna said that bragging about your relationship can be too much and can become at times ‘nauseating.’
3: Don’t post passive aggressive quotes
This is one of Anna’s biggest peeves. Passive aggressive quotes written with the intention that the person that you are annoyed with will see the quote,
She said that being passive aggressive and posting random quotes directed at someone was so ridiculous and labelled it ‘immature.’
She advised it would be better to talk through whatever problems there were through closed doors instead of sending out hidden messages.
She said that the intended target wouldn’t care. She added that the ultimate goal was to look classy and put together on social media.
So posting passive aggressive quotes comes across as immature and should be ruled out immediately.
4: Don’t post any pictures with cigarettes or alcohol
Anna argues that if you want to stay elegant on social media you need to ditch posting pictures of yourself with cigarettes or alcohol.
She said that you will always appear more elegant and classy if you are never pictured with cigarettes and alcohol.
The expert said it is never a good look to be photographed grabbing bottles or smoking and pictures of you actually partying are huge no.
She added: “You should try to hide your drinks in shots even when there is an official photographer at a party.”
“That picture is most likely going to be around forever.” She continued, “This is the time when you need to be a bit more discreet, as you really don’t want to be advertising your bad habits.”
5: Don’t go online when you’ve had too many drinks
The expert insists that this is a major taboo when it comes to social media etiquette.
“You should never go online when you are drunk or even tipsy.”
She confirmed: “Drunken voice, even if you’ve only had two glasses of wine, we can hear it because the voice has changed.” Anna said:
“Recording yourself on stories saying things that you think are funny.”
“They’re not really that funny, and then you’re there slurring. Now that definitely cheapens a social media presence.”
6: Bragging about yourself online
Anna claims that when a person brags about themselves online it boils down to Insecurity ,
She found that in her experience people who were continually bragging online were usually really trying hard to make the viewer understand that they have a lot.
She said that in her experience people who have a lot are not going out promoting it and tend to be more discreet.
7: Don’t be a drama queen
Anna explained social media queens exist in high quantities on the platforms because it was: Their secret little hub because that’s where they get all the attention.
She said a typical drama queen is the type of person who leaves cryptic messages and then disappears to make people wonder what’s happened or what has gone wrong.
The expert agreed that yes, having some drama in your life is normal and expected but advised people against making a habit of displaying it on social media.
8: DON’T POST WHEN YOU ARE IN A BAD MOOD
Anna said it is ok to be vulnerable online and it is ok to show some parts of intimacy and when she gets personal online she has one condition that she sticks to religiously.
She said: ‘I have a rule that if I’m overly negative or I have a really bad day, I don’t go online.
‘I keep it for myself because why would I share all this negativity with other people and ruin their day?’
Sometimes you have to share negative news or maybe want to share some inner thoughts, but she emphasised ‘it’s about how much of that you do.’
9: Don’t post content in low light
Now this is an odd rule and one that many might not think affects social media etiquette but Anna insists this is a rule that must be adhered to.
She explained that in low light it is difficult to get good pictures as they often come out pixelated or blurry, or quite often unflattering
The elegance insisted that for best results you should take all your pictures during the daytime, when you have bright colours coming out.
This the expert claimed by taking pictures in the day you would get a more flattering and aesthetically pleasing social media feed
10:Don’t use cheap Influencer tactics
The last tip the etiquette expect offered was advising against using cheap Influencer tactics.
A lot of women would like to be successful Influencers, but she ruled out participating in strange giveaways.
She said: ”Participating in these strange obscure giveaways are kind of like a little bit low level giveaways that definitely does cheapen the person or their brand so much.